Hi Everyone,

Some of you may have read that headline and think I am being ridiculous. It does sound a little odd, how I choose to be happy daily. I mean, most people just assume that whatever the day brings will decide our happiness, right? For some, this sounds ludicrous as it would suggest that I am going around beaming with glee regardless of my situation.

However, that is an exaggeration! I simply put this into action with my mantra “Happiness is a state of mind”. That means that we have the freedom to choose whether we let negative thoughts dampen our mood. I understand that sometimes it is unavoidable but if you can get through whatever is bringing you down in terms of your mood, you begin to have a strength and power over the negative thought pattern, therefore choosing to be happy daily.

The beginning of the day is the best time to implement these positive thoughts over negative. Our subconscious minds are most vulnerable or pliable in the morning after waking and also at night just before we sleep. If you start the morning off on the wrong foot so to speak, it can set the tone for the whole day. Have you ever noticed that? I have been guilty of it many times, before I started reading up on the power of your subconscious mind. I still am to an extent but I am way better at turning it around quickly now. I have trained my mind not to be angry, frustrated or sad in the morning if something goes wrong or I feel stressed for whatever reason. When I feel those emotions boiling up, I repeat my mantra subconsciously and remember to be grateful. Gratitude is a brilliant way of remembering that things aren’t so bad after all and we have so many beautiful reasons to be happy.

It almost seems too simple how I choose to be happy daily. When I first read about how we choose our own happiness it took me a while to get my head around it. It just seems too easy to assume we can make that choice. Once you accept that it is your choice and not beyond your control, you will be on your way to convincing your subconscious mind that it is so. If you cannot accept it, neither will your subconscious mind and you won’t make it work for you. You have to believe it in your conscious mind first. It is similar to how hypnosis works, you need to believe it will work and trust the process or else it just won’t happen for you. First step, trust in the process and start believing that you do indeed control your happiness. You are not a slave to negativity and as soon as you choose happiness over unhappiness you will be free!

Start your day with a positive mantra such as “Today is going to be a great day. I love my life and I feel so positive about the day ahead. I am happy and confident. Nothing can get me down!” Something along those lines is ideal. It doesn’t have to be the same every morning, you can make it up as you go along. Feed your mind with positive thoughts as you go about getting ready. Even if you are in a rush, the kids are screaming or you are alone and feeling vulnerable, whatever your situation, at some point just repeat some positive affirmations and block out any negativity for a minute. Now if something is causing you stress/worry/anger just let it go. I’m reminded of that song from the Disney Frozen movie now because my 3 year old is obsessed with that movie at the moment. We can all take something from Elsa and just let it go…

Force those negative thoughts away and push your positivity out. No matter how hard it seems, it is the only way to overcome negativity. I have seen people go from positive to negative in minutes. Some people just cannot get their head around being positive and it is a vicious circle. The more negative thoughts you have the more you attract in your mind. Your subconscious mind is listening. When you think negatively, you are sabotaging yourself and your happiness. Of course you will still have negative thoughts when negative things happen or are happening in your life. What you need to do is turn those thoughts into positive ones by thinking for instance, it is bad but we will make it better or it’s bad but it could be worse. Think of yourself as the person you would go to for advice. Let that voice of reasoning and positivity be your guide.

Think of the person who you would go to for advice about a problem or your shoulder to cry on. What would they say in that situation? Then think of what you are telling yourself, is it good advice or bad? Do you tell yourself, it’s gonna be one of those days when something goes wrong? I know I used to. That is a negative thought which needs to be removed. It makes your subconscious mind believe it is gonna be a terrible day and therefore things take a negative turn. It is better to dust yourself off and say “I’m unstoppable right now, nothing can get me down!” isn’t it? Smile and put your best foot forward, the day could be amazing if you let it be. This is how I choose to be happy daily.

Granted, this may not work every time. That is predictable! Of course we are not immune to negativity but if we outweigh the negative thoughts with positive ones we are winning!

Even if you just repeat to yourself in the mornings and remind yourself whenever you feel a negative thought coming on ” I choose to be happy” that is automatically confirming and convincing to your subconscious mind that you are happy! It is such a wonderful gift, like a smile. It is scientifically proven that by smiling, you ‘trick’ your brain into feeling happy even if you are feeling low. As well as uplifting your own spirits naturally, a smile is contagious. Try smiling throughout the day and passing on your positivity to others. How nice is it to lift someone else spirits and see them smile back? Awesome 🙂

I am sure you have heard of the phrase “misery loves company” meaning that when someone is miserable they can generally make you feel miserable too. Sometimes when negative people offload their problems, they want to feel as though you understand their pain, by feeling their negative energy. This is all fine as we need to talk about our feelings and problems with a listening ear. However, when we comfort someone and give them hugs or encouraging words, we can only hope they feel better.

Someone who is in a constant negative state of mind often cannot get their head around being in a positive space. It is time for a change. If they need professional counselling then so be it. They may try hypnosis to help remove limiting beliefs. The habit of feeling negative needs to be broken and that involves believing that it is possible. Removing negative mental blocks that are holding them back and making them miserable is the only way forward. As soon as the habit of feeling positive is formed, the rest comes naturally. If you haven’t read my recent post, check it out here > “What is negative self talk and how can we overcome it?”

You need to ask yourself, what makes me happy? Now assess what is making you feel positive and work more towards that. Then assess what makes you feel negative. Work on why those negative thoughts around that particular area are there. Is it something you wish to resolve or is it something that no longer serves you and your happiness?

Do what makes you happy! You deserve to be happy in this one beautiful life that is so incredibly precious. Stop overthinking your problems and work on the solutions. Let go of past hurts. Let it go…….

The past is in the past – another quote from Elsa there! I am on a roll here haha. It is true though, today is a new day and tomorrow is the beginning of the future! A new day and a fresh start. Choose to be happy.

Now remember to think similar positive thoughts before bed as the subconscious mind works while you sleep. Those positive affirmations will be going around in your mind over and over all through the night! Perfect for waking up positive. Switch off your phone and repeat some positive thoughts or mantras before bed and think of the wonderful things to come. Imagine your ideal state of happiness and what it involves.

This is how I choose to be happy daily. If you haven’t read it yet, do have a read of my gratitude post as it really was a huge stepping stone for me in my pursuit of happiness! “Why I’m grateful for gratitude, and how it changed my life“.

Hope you enjoyed this article and are feeling positive and happy. If not, keep up those mantras and make it so!

Love,

Ciara xxx

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